Frequently I have encountered patients who are
understandably concerned about when or where they were exposed to the
HPV virus (or other STD's) and are anxiously desiring answers. I have
spent many hours counseling patients on this subject and what is most
disturbing to me is that I will often find patients wanting answers to
"their" concerns only so they can call their partners who are awaiting
an explanation.
I see women burdened with the task of trying to find a
plausible explanation for an abnormal finding on a routine exam or a
"symptom" that brought them to their health care provider. It is tragic
to see this, since in many cases the problem should no more be a
concern of hers than her partner's.
Women are often times more involved with the health care
system starting at an early age ......menstrual problems , birth
control issues, pregnancy and most notably: routine screening
procedures (ie. pap smears , STD testing). This can inherently make
women appear to be the origin of problems in a relationship, when in
fact, they are simply the first one to bring a medical problem in a
relationship to the attention of a health care provider..... an
abnormal test result (pap smear) or the clinical manifestation of a
medical condition (pelvic infection).
When I am asked about the various "mutually-at-risk
conditions" between partners ( herpes, HPV, chlamydia etc.), I explain
to the patient what the condition is , as best I can, and give
supporting literature to share with her partner. When there is any
indication that the findings are affecting her relationship or being
construed as her fault I will encourage an appointment along with her
partner to address any disagreements or "misunderstandings" in the
relationship that might have come about as a result of this finding.